From ATTACHMENT THEORY and OBJECT RELATION THEORY I take the importance of relationship. In this case, our therapy relationship; and yes entering a therapy relationship is like entering any relationship. You have to make sure that you have chemistry with the person in front of you and that you have a feeling you can learn and grow with that person. More often than not we are wounded in relationship and it is in relationship that we can heal.Online anxiety treatment would benefit from secure relationship between therapist and client.The idea of different style of attachments: secure, avoidant ,anxious and ambivalent shapes my thinking, as I make choices in our therapy relationship to teach secure attachment. This process supports the premise of the object relation theory which says that we internalized our primary giver’s attitudes towards ourselves, and made those attitudes a way we relate to ourselves. Those primary care giver’s attitudes became an object in our mental representation. We use them to explain ourselves in the world and our place in it. Once we start to be in a secure attachment relationship those ancient mental representations will surface through what process psychologists call transference, and your wounding will start to appear. It is the therapist’s job, then, to be a good enough object and to respond differently to the client. By responding with compassion, patience, positive regard and love healing is created. Old relationship wounds (or old object representations) can be worked through and be at peace. You will be able to move on with your life when you are more grounded and present. Adding a body-mind psychotherapy perspective to object relations allows for old representations appear in our awareness gently and deeply. Couples therapy can also benefit from a mutual understanding of each partners past representations and the way it affects then now.
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_relations_theory
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory